{"id":4606,"date":"2014-09-11T15:40:30","date_gmt":"2014-09-11T19:40:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/?p=4606"},"modified":"2024-02-14T10:38:33","modified_gmt":"2024-02-14T15:38:33","slug":"when-youre-stuck-try-feedback","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/blog\/when-youre-stuck-try-feedback\/","title":{"rendered":"When You\u2019re Stuck, Try Feedback"},"content":{"rendered":"

Roger Connors & Tom Smith, Authors, co-CEOs of Partners In Leadership<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Feeling stuck in any area of life\u2014a stalled career, tough office relationships, messy personal life? We\u2019ve spent the last 30 years learning just how to get unstuck and move the needle on even the most stubborn issues\u2014with consistent, well-practiced feedback<\/em>.<\/p>\n

The key: You have to ask for it. It’s really no more complicated than that.<\/p>\n

But before you rush out and just blindly ask what others think of you (highly risky without a bit of practice by the way), consider these guidelines from our latest book, The Wisdom of Oz<\/em>.<\/a> These 9 proven safety tips will help you get your head right so you can go solicit, respond to, and use feedback to succeed in everything you do:<\/p>\n

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  1. Seek it.<\/strong> Feedback doesn\u2019t just happen. You have to make it happen. Help yourself stay unstuck by seeking feedback even when you believe things are going great.<\/li>\n
  2. Have courage.<\/strong> Seeking constructive feedback can be scary. Remind yourself that whoever you\u2019re asking feedback from is already thinking about you and how you do things anyway; you’re just hearing what they already believe.<\/li>\n
  3. Allow awkwardness.<\/strong> Remember that almost everyone fears offering feedback about as much as they fear asking for it. People worry it will backfire, and they value their job or relationship over saying anything\u2014which is why momentum bogs in the first place. Revel in the discomfort and seek feedback anyway.<\/li>\n
  4. Be convincing.<\/strong> You must assure that the person you\u2019re asking understands that you really want to know what they think. Employees, boss, spouse, children\u2014they need to know there won\u2019t be any blowback from you if they honestly tell you how they see it.<\/li>\n
  5. Get positive.<\/strong> Though it might be hard to believe, it\u2019s easier for people to offer positive rather than negative feedback. You have to ask for constructive feedback. Try \u201cWhat can I do better?\u201d instead of \u201cWhat am I doing wrong?\u201d<\/li>\n
  6. Listen.<\/strong> After asking for feedback, you need to do the hard part and listen. Really listen, then act on what you hear that makes sense.<\/li>\n
  7. Be grateful.<\/strong> Don\u2019t let constructive feedback, no matter how unpleasant, color your view of the person who\u2019s trying to help. Express sincere gratitude for their willingness to share in the first place.<\/li>\n
  8. Make it a habit.<\/strong> Make getting feedback a habit, not a one-time thing. Ask if it’s okay to follow up, even suggesting you meet again for a reality check just to keep yourself in line.<\/li>\n
  9. Be nice.<\/strong> Finally, be nice to yourself and others. You can\u2019t make any important changes overnight.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Think you are ready for a little feedback? Right out of the gate you might want to select someone you\u2019re comfortable with, then get started by simply asking, \u201cWhat feedback do you have for me?\u201d You might need to tag it with some context; \u201cWhat feedback do you have for me on how I handled myself in our sales meeting?\u201d Got it?<\/p>\n

    Once they\u2019ve picked themselves up off the floor, and once you\u2019ve listened, don\u2019t offer some long defensive response. Just graciously say, \u201cThanks for the feedback.\u201d Your gratitude will signal you aren\u2019t defensive (even if you really are) and that you are happy they took the time and overcame the risk to share.<\/p>\n

    Bottom line: Feedback<\/a> is a principle that if practiced is the key to overcoming blind spots and achieving improved results in all aspects of your life\u2014both personal and professional.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Roger Connors & Tom Smith, Authors, co-CEOs of Partners In Leadership Feeling stuck in any area of life\u2014a stalled career, tough office relationships, messy personal life? We\u2019ve spent the last 30 years learning just how to get unstuck and move the needle on even the most stubborn issues\u2014with consistent, well-practiced feedback. The key: You have […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4606","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-entrepreneurship"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4606","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4606"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4606\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4606"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4606"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/futurpreneur.ca\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4606"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}